
Female, red-head, right-handed, English, Irish, moderate, asexual, lesbian, Southern, American, Anglophile, Atheist, schizoid, writer, reader, homo sapien sapien.
Labels are a pain in the tuchas.
Any thinking person knows that many qualifiers change throughout a person’s lifetime. Unfortunately, the majority of the people in the world aren’t thinking. It’s understandable, really. One has a difficult enough time keeping up with the person one is without having to keep up with who one’s acquaintances are. It’s so much friendlier to become one person in teenagedom, adopt the appropriate labels, and stick with them for the following fifty or sixty years. I mean, really. Do me a favor and remain the same person you were when we first met, all right?
And don’t get me started on how others perceive me.
I’ll always be female, right-handed and a red-head–even after my hair goes white I’ll still have earned my red badge from having to put up with the ‘hey, carrot top!’ jeers from childhood. I’ll always be American and Southern–it’s where I was born and raised and even though I can see the world through English eyes if I put some effort into it, I still fundamentally see the world as a person born below the Mason Dixon line in the U.S. I’ll most likely always be asexual, as I’ve never been interested in doing sex with another person, I’m gathering I will never want to do
I’ve only recently began calling myself ‘moderate’ or ‘independent’ and that’s because my family is ultra-right wing. Because I don’t see the world the way they do I assumed I was a super-liberal. Now that I’ve been out in the world and have met some super-liberals I see that I’m really a moderate, as I think all politicians are full of it (not that they have any choice–it’s what the Public wants).
The words ‘asexual’ and ‘lesbian’ are what cued this entry. On another forum on which I post (which is populated by intelligent and thoughtful people, by and large) I said I was an asexual lesbian. Someone pointed out that I was married to a man and so I should call myself an asexual bisexual and I blanched at that phrase. Chiefly because I look at romantic preference by percentage. I’ve only been romantically drawn to one man–my husband–so I feel I am still a romantic lesbian, as my mushy feelings are toward women. If I hadn’t met my husband I most likely would not have ever considered a relationship with a man, simply because I only thought of people with Y chromosomes as friends…or potentially annoying stalkers.
I say it’s a matter of percentage because if 99.95% of the time I’m attracted to women romantically then that’s most accurate. I suppose I *could* call myself, “an eensy bit bisexual asexual,” or, “an asexual lesbian married to an asexual man,” but labels are meant to simplify life, not make it more complicated. I think that’s something more people to keep in mind.
“Hi. I’m a female, red-headed, right-handed, English, Irish, moderate, asexual, lesbian, Southern, American, Anglophile, Atheist, schizoid, writer, reader, homo sapien sapien.”
“But there’s more to me than that.”